Siblings

It’s best to talk to your child before your body changes too much or neighbors begin talking to you about the new baby. Otherwise, he or she might feel left out, puzzled or concerned.

Children who are 1 or 2 years old may not understand the concept of a new sister or brother. But they can share in the excitement as you prepare for the baby. Specialty picture books can help explain the news, and if you know someone with a newborn, take your child for a visit.

With school-age children, use age-appropriate language, answer questions and discuss their feelings.

No matter the age, avoid talking about a new “playmate,” which can lead to disappointment when the child sees a newborn.

Consider the child’s developmental milestones. If possible, start toilet-training, for instance, long before the baby is born or a few months after the family is comfortable with the new arrival.

If you plan to move the child to another room or from a crib to a bed, do so before the baby is born, allowing plenty of time for an adjustment period.

Involve your child in the planning process, whether that means going shopping for baby clothes together, picking out nursery colors or listening to the baby’s heartbeat.

Encourage your spouse or partner, family and friends to spend more time with the older child.

Depending on the child’s age, have a trusted friend or family member bring the child to the hospital to see the mother and baby. While other visitors hold the baby, give special attention to the older sibling.

If you know that your friends and family are bringing the baby a gift, ask them to include an item for your other child. Alternatively, they can bring a present just for the older sibling.

Tantrums are not uncommon. Children might break the rules to get attention and act younger than their age. There might be a setback in toilet training. Don’t scold, punish or get upset during this period of adjustment. Continue to show affection and spend time alone with the child doing something fun, such as going to the playground. Children need to know they’re still loved and that the new baby has not replaced them.

For more information, contact ChristianaCare’s Parent Education Department at 302-301-3360.